3 Essentials to Happiness

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My Dear Daughter

How have you been since I last wrote to you?

You know, my mother once told me that there are three essentials to happiness and I feel that I must share these three essentials with you. I believe that each of these essentials will help us develop a positive state of mind and will contribute to the solid foundation upon which stable relationships are built.

The three essentials are: – Do, Love, and Hope!

– Have something to Do,
– Have something or someone to Love, and
– Have something to Hope for.

So, what should we take away from these essentials?

DO: I believe it means that we should do something that is meaningful to ourselves and others. Do something of value and something that that we can be proud of, something for our family, for our community and yes, for ourselves as well. It is not necessary to do big things, – but what we do should have relevance to us. What we do should be something that enables us to live with purpose and allows us to feel good about ourselves.

Some people look around and do something to make their community better, others do something to make their families better and yet others, do something to make themselves better. The amazing thing about doing, is that when we do something with others, when we share small tasks, big tasks, ideas and dreams, we build a reserve of mutual understanding and respect upon which we can rely in good times, and in bad.

Love: Love goes without saying – not only should we love ourselves and each other without reserve, but we should also love what we do completely, so that the pool of understanding and respect that we gain from doing, is supported by a framework of care and concern for each others welfare and good. It was Oscar Wilde who said –

“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead”.

In loving ourselves, we should do so with a spirit of forgiveness. We know that we make mistakes, and when we learn to forgive ourselves for making them, and also learn to forgive others for making theirs, we free ourselves from the bondage of guilt. Planting seeds of love without cooling drops from the water fountain of forgiveness is like trying to grow a garden in the arid asphalt of a parking lot in summer.

Hope: Maya Angelou ties love and hope together by saying,

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope”.

Hope is therefore a deep expectation and conviction that from what we do, and from what we love to do, we will reap a lifetime of rewards because life without hope in meaningless. Meaning without understanding is empty, and emptiness in our hearts is only filled when we find joy and happiness.

So my dear do what you love …. And love what you do, and as always, take care of yourself.

G’ama Trica

Pat Wright, B.Sc., M.Ed. is an educator, community activist and diversity trainer with a keen interest in people, places and things. Pat has been the Toastmasters Area Governor and was recognized in the first "Who’s Who in Black Canada – 2002 edition”.