#IWD2017 Women’s Chronicles- LOVE

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I love you sister…oh how sweet of you.
Let thy love for me never go wither.
May it flourish even to stand the test of time.
So even in old age…we would have memories of how I let you into my life.

WOMAN…be that it may…love like this is one so rare to find among ourselves.

How do we love ourselves when we largely depend on a man’s validation of how valued we are?

On a scale of one to ten, eight women out of it would appreciate herself more when she gets to hear it from a man.


So it is one thing to say “I Love you sister” and it is completely another thing to mean it.

Many times we say those words frequently while simultaneously contradicting them by the way we treat that sister we say we love.

HOW? Based on the fact that the complication of the word “love” has many shades of meaning; some deep and some very shallow.

The Greeks explain love in three different categories; Philia, Eros and Agape – Dennis Smith

The Greek word ‘Philia’ refers to brotherly or sisterly love – a warm feeling, rational kind of love. ‘Eros’ designates the kind of love that is sensuous and very conditional. ‘Agape’ is the kind of love that gives of itself for the good of the one who is the object of this love. People who love someone with this kind of love do what’s good for the one they love rather than what’s good for themselves and Agape love is not conditioned on how the one being loved responds to the love bestowed on them.


Well, it is quite obvious we practice Eros.
Guilty as it may…I am as guilty like any other woman. We condition our love…we base it on how much “she” can complement “me”.

This trend is dangerous. It has played a great role in the way we relate to each other.

Mean it because it is worth it. Mean it because you owe it to humanity. Mean it because LOVE is the only way to BUILDING SISTERHOOD.



Grace Kargobai is the Founder of Illuminating Ladies, a global network of Illuminessence ambassadors, facilitated on WhatsApp. She is a graduate of Njala University with a major in Environmental Management and Quality Control. Her hobbies are writing, talking, singing and dancing.

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